Preparing your home for sale is hard. Especially when you are alone. Still, I had done this once before, and my home this time was much smaller, with no land to worry about since I live in a condo.
So I decided to take the plunge, and I started looking for homes online. Then I took it a step further and contacted a few realtors, finally settling on one of them to sell my home and help me find a new one.
There were things that needed to get done. Stuff needed to get fixed, like the stains in the ceiling and along the wall in my bedroom and one of my bathrooms from some water that leaked in during a major storm. Then there were the windows. Almost all of them needed to be replaced because of leaking. There’s still more of this “contract” work to be done, and I call it that because it was certainly not stuff that I was going to do on my own.
Then there was the decluttering. Wow, what a huge job for a single guy who has a lot of junk sitting around. I had no idea how much work this would be. I had a few friends help, and I had a few others offer, but it seemed like the job was never going to end. I kept noticing new things that needed to get done, and I was becoming more and more frustrated and depressed about it.
Then last weekend, with one of my neighbors in my garage ready to lend a hand, I just stopped. I became incredibly depressed for no obvious reason, and I told my neighbor that I didn’t want to do any more. During the week I still managed to pack up a couple of things and move them down into the garage, but for the most part I just came to a screeching halt. I called the realtor and told him I was getting overwhelmed and I needed some help to first, figure out what needed to be done, and then do it for me, because I didn’t want to do any more work.
An over reaction? Maybe. If the next thing that happened in my life hadn’t happened I would have said I was just being lazy, and/or letting my emotions get the better of me. But something significant did happen, and I’m wondering now if somehow I sensed that things were going on behind the scenes in my life that would change the course of my life for the immediate future.
The following Thursday evening after work I got a disturbing email from my manager. It said to not go in to the site where I worked for the government contract I was on, and to call him at home. When I called him, he told me that the government lost funding for my position. In other words, I am out of a job unless my company can find me another position on another contract.
I’ve never been laid off or fired or anything of the sort, so to put it bluntly, I’m scared. I have money in a retirement account, but I don’t want to have to deplete that if I don’t have to, not to mention having to take a 10% penalty on whatever I withdraw. I don’t know what I’m going to do if my company doesn’t find me something. Well, I guess I do know. I’m going to look for another job. I have plenty of contacts and some good skills and experience, so I suppose I shouldn’t be so scared, but I am. Fear of the unknown is really what it is.
Back to clairvoyance. Did I know there were discussions going on about the lack of funding for my position that I wasn’t privy to? Or am I just really sensitive, and felt an indescribable insecurity that was causing my depression and lack of motivation to continue to work on my home? Was this a self-fulfilling prophecy, whereas I caused this to happen because I felt so insecure? I thing Carl Jung described this as synchronicity. Two seemingly unrelated events are connected not by cause and effect, but by meaning. This is a fancy way to describe a coincidence that is just too coincidental.
So here I am, terrified about what the future will bring. I’ve canceled the move for now until I’m sure that I have a steady, reliable job to go to, and this is actually somewhat of a relief. I’m feeling almost paralyzed though, and I’ve been waking up in the morning in tears from horrible nightmares. If anyone else has been here that can offer some advice as to how to deal with the emotions, especially the fear, I’d really appreciate it.